Planning A Memorial Service  


organizations who might be able to offer financial assistance

Financial Assistance







Service Logistics

If you would like to utilize these completely free services please contact them right away:

*NowILayMeDownToSleep Photography 


*Angel Gowns



*Schedule photos right away and during the session be sure to take some of your own pictures too so you can use them at the funeral if you would like to, in case they don’t have their professional ones back to you before then.


*This is especially important to do if your child is a micro preemie and the hospital you are at doesn’t already work with Angel Gowns or hasn’t provided you with one.

Choose A Funeral Home

Choose Burial or Cremation

Choose Casket or Urn


*Hospitals usually give you a mandatory 24 hours that you must notify them of what funeral home you will be using, and 48 hours that the funeral home must pickup your baby into their care by.

*A lot of companies offer major discounts for services for babies, so be sure to ask about that.

*Trappist Caskets offers free caskets for infants. Click here for more info: Trappist Caskets

*Audrey & McKenna offers free cremation boxes. Click here for more info: Audrey & McKenna

Choose Funeral Location 

Set The Date & Time of Service

Make Announcement/ Send Invite 



*Click here for more info: Create an online memorial

*Free hand painted portraits for infant loss families: Finding Feathers


*Include in the announcement if there is a color theme that you would like everyone to wear to the services (we did not want the traditional all black, so we requested that everyone wore pink or light colors to our daughter’s service)

Choose the Officiator or Pastor



Notify Any Family or Friends You Might Want To Participate In Additional Things


*This could include asking someone special to be the pallbearer, or also possibly welcoming Baby’s grandparents and aunts/uncles to submit a simple, short, and sweet loving statement from them if they would like that would be included with the other messages to be read at some point during the services.

Arrange For Service To Be Photographed and Recorded



Choose What Music You Would Like Played


*Usually having around three to four songs picked out is a good amount, so that you will at least have one song to play as family is being seated, one at the very beginning of the service that others might want to sing to, one at the very end of service, and another one if you would like something also played at any graveside service. 

Design Service Program Template

Design Bookmark or Prayer Card Keepsake



*Feel free to check out Lambie’s Love’s Pintrest account for possible helpful ideas with these:

Purchase Items 


* This could include buying a funeral outfit for yourself, a guest book for attendees to sign in, picture frames to display special photos during the service, a hat or headband for Baby to wear


Additional Funeral Resources:



“I Carry Your Heart With Me”

(E.E. Cummings)

I carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart)

I am never without it (anywhere i go you go, my dear;

and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)

I fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet)

I want no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

Here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

I carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)

There is No Night”

(Helen Steiner Rice)

There is no night without dawning

No winter without a spring

And beyond the dark horizon

Our hearts will once more sing ….

For those who leave us for a while

Have only gone away

Out of a restless, care worn world

Into a brighter day

Beyond The Sunset”

Beyond the sunset,
O blissful morning,
When with our Saviour
Heav’n is begun.
Earth’s toiling ended,
O glorious dawning;
Beyond the sunset
When day is done. 

Beyond the sunset,
No clouds will gather,
No storms will threaten,
No fears annoy;
O day of gladness,
O day unending,
Beyond the sunset,
Eternal Joy. 

Beyond the sunset,
A hand will guide me
To God, the Father,
Whom I adore;
His glorious presence,
His words of welcome,
Will be my portion
On that fair shore. 

Beyond the sunset,
O glad reunion,
With our dear loved ones
Who’ve gone before;
In that fair homeland
We’ll know no parting,
Beyond the sunset
For evermore!